The Afghan

Red, yellow, and some warm earth tones, created with healing in mind. Delivered to my husband and brought home to me. The wife of one of Bob’s employees crafted each row with painstaking care – artful precision. Folded up and waiting on the love seat in our bedroom. I left it there as if leaving it untouched might delay the day of my surgery. Yet the calendar pages turned and without my permission the day arrived.

Coming home from the hospital, my eye acknowledged its vibrant colors. Positioning myself in my friend’s borrowed recliner, I begged sleep to come. I read a new “book-friend” into the wee hours of the night with my pink (Yes, I recognize the irony here) flashlight. Our dog, Gracie, and my Love, Bob, slumbered nearby in our bed. Their gentle rumbles of sleep comforted me. The recliner seemed to hold me together, the drains bumping against the soft fabric. I covered myself with the rainbow of colors, feeling broken and small.

My season of healing faded into a sea of acceptance. I folded the brilliant colors up and stacked them atop the love seat. The recliner made its way back to my friend’s house as my Love and I tried to navigate our way back to Normal. All the while it sat perched upon our love seat, imploring me to touch its delicate stitches. I refused to cross the chasm- if I touched the warm colors I might traverse back to my season of sickness.

Two years have passed and it is a blustery day- the kind of day that begs to be wrapped in hot tea and a rainbow of colors. I walked to our room and saw it there. I touched it. I peered into the doorway of my recovery. I tiptoed in and picked it up. I reclined on our bed for a nap, wrapping myself in its warmth. I didn’t see cancer this time. Instead I saw the afghan. The colors were beautiful and invited me to rest here for a season.

Jesus With Skin

Sometimes the telephone rings and you can just feel it- there’s an undercurrent in the air, a shrillness to the ring imploring you to answer- an echo of the words yet to be uttered. Bad news can be delivered in a staccato tone- each word- every syllable- pronounced with crisp, clean precision.

My southern sister was on the line and our Mama was very ill. I needed an airplane ticket and I needed one quickly. My husband Bob became my trusty travel agent and I soon had a flight.  He would drive me to Dayton, where I would fly from Dayton to Charlotte to Atlanta.

The flight from Dayton to Charlotte was uneventful.  We landed in the most ordinary of ways, and I went in search of the room all 50-something women need to visit upon landing.  I called Mama on the telephone and prayed with her. Hanging up, I was relieved to take a seat in the terminal and wait to board my flight to Atlanta.

I should have known something was up as I ambled down the aisle looking for my seat.  A flight attendant quite coyly asked me if I was old enough to sit in the emergency exit aisle.  Another lady about 10 years my senior was already settled there, engrossed in her book. I positioned my purse on the floor, clicked my seat belt, and closed my eyes. I should insert here that my purse was not the best choice for travel.  It was my beach purse and it does not zip or snap. No time to change purses when you have 30 minutes to pack.

A female flight attendant began doing what flight attendants do before take-off and she stopped abruptly by my seat.

“You’ll need to put your purse up top.” (The space under my seat was already inhabited by a bookbag belonging to the gentleman sitting behind me.)

Before I could respond to our flight attendant’s request, I received a text from my sister that Mama was weak and it was going to be a long surgery. This text was met with intermittent messages from my husband and children all wanting  reassuring updates about our sweet Mama. A tiny drop of water squeezed itself out of the corner of my eye.  I began to pray.  I had no eloquent words or Scripture verses dripping off my tongue.  My prayer was simple, brief, and desperate. “Jesus, I know you’re with me but I really need to feel your presence. Help me.”

What happened next would make a great ‘Seinfeld’ episode with me in the role of ‘Elaine.’  The flight attendant repeated her request, this time with a bit more impatience in her tone.

“You’ll need to put your purse up top now.”

I’m not sure exactly what happened next in my frazzled, emotional brain. I should preface this statement with the fact that inside my purse was the ‘golden ticket’ to remaining cancer-free: Tamoxifen.  I wish to also plead my case that by this time we had been sitting on the plane for over 2 hours.  Thunderstorms…   Thunderstorms, hormones, and stress are never a good combo.

A voice bordering on mild hysteria came from within.

“You can’t have my purse. My medication is in there.”

This is probably not the wisest choice of words to utter when one is flying. The lady sitting next to me suddenly looked up from her book. She patted my arm, looked quizzically into my face, and said:

“She’ll give it back.”

She looked into my fully leaking eyeballs at this moment, and asked the million-dollar question: “Is something wrong?”

The volcano erupted.  I told her all about my sweet Mama’s surgery, my need to get to Atlanta quickly, and that my purse didn’t zip or snap.  I didn’t want to lose my medication if my purse started ‘rolling around up top.’

And then… the inexplicable happened.  My flight mate’s name was Kay. She shared that she was a retired nurse and knew all about my Mama’s surgery. She innocently asked (and perhaps with some trepidation on her part) what type of medication was in my purse.

“Tamoxifen.”

“So, you’re a survivor. How long?”

“Two years…”

“Me too.  Ten years…”

“What do you do in your free time now that you’re a retired nurse?”

“I’m a preschool teacher.”

I gulped- most likely visibly. You see- I’m a preschool teacher. I thought back to the prayer I had uttered earlier.

“Jesus, I know you’re there.  But I really need to feel your presence. Help me.”

I sat there stunned. The entire episode of my real-life ‘Seinfeld’  rewound through my brain:  the delayed take-off, the snarky flight attendant, my beach purse containing the precious Tamoxifen, the frazzled text messages, and the lady sitting beside me- Kay. I asked Jesus to show up and quite frankly I wasn’t certain He would.

Not only did He show up, he orchestrated my seating arrangements on that plane.  He placed me next to a nurse familiar with my Mama’s surgery, a breast cancer thriver like me, and a preschool teacher to boot.  Now that is one clever Jesus.

Kay and I became fast friends on the remainder of our flight. She walked with me to baggage claim and to hunt down a taxi.  Before we said goodbye, I told her about my prayer and I thanked her for answering my plea.  She looked me square in the eye and said without missing a beat:

“Don’t thank me. Thank Him.”

So the next time you’re in a tight spot- a situation that you’re just not sure He’s going to handle- look around you.  Take a long, hard look at the people He has positioned in your life at that moment. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll meet your “Jesus with skin.”  I did- her name was Kay…

 

 

 

 

My Name is Janey

There’s a gritty, spunky flavor to a state fair. You park your car on a gravel lot and hear the crunch as you maneuver your vehicle amidst the strollers, small children, and couples walking hand- in- hand. Gritty because its dust leaves a distinct taste in your mouth. Spunky with its neon signs, audacious food choices “on a stick,” and people in all shapes, colors, and apparel choices.

If you’re looking for organic food choices…. do fried veggies sandwiched between two glazed doughnuts count?! We bypassed that bold choice and settled for an Amish food stand instead.  My man traded me the turkey sandwich and noodles that was absolutely dripping with meat for his chicken, carrots,and peas concoction.  We couldn’t find a table but the ground sufficed. And. It. Was. Delicious.

After eating, we ambled over to the animal barns. First up- the sheep.  They were MUCH larger than I anticipated.  After watching their handlers steer them to the ring to be judged, it struck me again why humans are so often compared to sheep in the Bible.  They are stubborn, vocal, and let’s just say not that intelligent. The handlers appeared to be firmly grabbing the sheeps’ rear as they corralled them. I couldn’t help but chuckle thinking that must be how God feels sometimes.  That one- right there- namely ME- needs a good, swift kick in the rear. 🙂

Next up, the dairy barn.  There were several  cows outside.  One sweet girl for children to try their hand at milking.  Man- what must that gentle cow be thinking to herself right about now?!  Further down the line, a very tired Mama Cow who had just given birth about 30 minutes earlier. Her baby had been whisked away somewhere to be cleaned up presumably.  But this poor mother was lying in the straw- her placenta and exhausted spirit displayed for all the world to see.  A nice breeze manufactured by an electric fan was pointed in her direction. I couldn’t help but wonder if she might prefer a little privacy right about now.

My man and I made our way back to the concert venue. What an experience- singing and worshiping with a thousand other Christ Followers to the music of Chris Tomlin!! What an emotional high. I envisioned my friend Kathy in Heaven- smiling and looking the way she did before cancer took up residence in her body. I wondered how God must feel hearing all of our voices raised in unison- PRAISING HIM.

My man and I filed out of the building and concluded that nothing could be more perfect than ice cream to cap our evening. We discovered several ice cream stands as we walked the midway, but my man wanted to retrace our steps back to The Dairy Barn.  He seemed very intent that The Dairy Barn must be our ice cream destination. We entered and stood in a long line of other adventurers. A lady about 5 years our junior approached and stood next to us.  She announced that she was looking for the shortest line. She liked my purse and mint chocolate ice cream a lot. It was going to taste real good. My man leaned over and whispered in my ear:

“I think that’s Janey. She lived a street over from me when I was in college. She greeted me every day with a happy-go-lucky “Hi Bob!”

Keep in mind my man and I were in college 30+ years ago. As the three of us drew closer to the cash register, I whispered “You could buy her an ice cream cone.”  And that’s exactly what my man did.

Our new friend was taken aback, insisted that she had money, and would pay us back.  The server handed her the coveted mint chocolate chip cone.  She looked at us and said, “My name’s Janey. What’s your name?” We introduced ourselves and my man quickly added that he knew her.  Janey looked startled and wandered away quickly into the crowd.

I suppose we may have frightened her a bit. First, we buy her an ice cream cone and then add that we knew her. The three of us broke every “Never talk to strangers” rule ever conceived.  I kept thinking about Janey as we drove home and later again the next day. I wondered why my man felt so compelled that only an ice cream treat from The Dairy Barn would do. I questioned why out of the three lines formed for those delectable flavors, Janey had selected our line. And why did she choose my man and I to engage with?

Maybe, just maybe, God was teaching us. Showing us that He engages with us daily- moment by moment.  If we see Him, if our hearts and minds are open to His Presence.  And perhaps he sent Janey to jog our memories and warm our hearts.

Isaiah 43:1-2
But now, thus says the LORD, who created you, O Jacob, And he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; You are mine.”

 

The Other Shoe

Happy Anniversary!  The two year anniversary of my breast cancer surgery has arrived.  Actually, I’m looking at it in my rear view mirror now.

Initially I wondered: Should the anniversary be the date I found the lump, the date of my ultrasound that aroused  my suspicions, or the date of the phone call that confirmed my worst nightmare?  I decided not to go with any of those dates.  Honestly, that period of my life is a blur- a hazy cloud  of appointments, tests, and anxious thoughts.

So I chose the date of my surgery: July 3, 2013. A couple who came to the hospital to visit me the day after my surgery brought a plant with a tiny American flag embedded in its soil.  I still remember their words, “To celebrate your first day of being cancer-free.”  I would like to tell you that I smiled at my friends and embraced their sentiments.  Instead, I cried- a steady silent cascade of water flowing down my cheeks.  All I could think about was the loss of my breasts, the endless wait for the final pathology report, and that word, “CANCER.”

Twenty-four months, two years, 730 days have passed. I choose my foods more carefully, exercise more frequently, and live and love in the moment more extravagantly.  I show up for each blood draw, every chest x-ray, and all my follow-up appointments with “The Queen Bee.” At first, I felt like I was suspended in mid-air: waiting…  Waiting for bad news, waiting for words I didn’t want to hear, waiting for the proverbial “other shoe to drop.”

I am done waiting.  I don’t want to be “one of those people.”  A person who cannot fully live in the NOW because she’s living somewhere out in the nefarious land of “WHAT IFs…”

So, this girl is lacing both shoes up, pushing forward, and celebrating. July 3, 2013 has become my personal Independence Day.  A day of Freedom- freedom from breast cancer, freedom from living in fight or flight mode, freedom to make good things happen. And that “other shoe” lives securely in my closet with its twin.  Her name is…”Today.”

Galatians 5:1  :  “It is for Freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”

 

 

 

Hallelujah Anyhow!

April and May have come and gone. I have turned the calendar page to June.  Spring was but a brief dance as we await the slow, warm interlude of summer. It’s funny how sometimes things happen that are so precious, so important that we think the world must stop spinning.  Everyone should stand still and linger over the notes of what has happened.  Yet, the symphony keeps playing, the minutes tick by, the calendar pages turn, and we want to shout: “Wait!  Something beautiful yet devastating has happened!  Grocery lists and errands must cease.  Just sit with me in this sacred space. Please.”

I have a friend.  I had a friend.  No, I have a friend.  She has been a part of my life for 22 and a half years.  That’s almost as long as my youngest child has lived. My friend was kind, loving, funny, opinionated, and strong. She created beautiful dresses for my daughter and baked cookies from scratch that should have been marketed internationally.  I’m certain those cookies could have brought about world peace simply on their own delectable merits.

My friend loved God.  My friend loves God. She prayed for me, my kids, and she always thought of others’ needs before her own.  She was a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend.

My friend was a fighter. My friend is a fighter. She sparred with cancer for nearly 18 years, and then somehow in the midst of her battle she made friends with her illness. She learned how to uncover Joy amidst the ruins of chemotherapy and Hope in the catacombs of radiation.

My friend was a thinker- a planner.  My friend is a thinker- a planner.  She harnessed her energy to find ways to leave pieces of herself behind for those who loved her.  E-mails, hand-written notes and cards, encouraging voice-mails, incredible hand-made quilts for grandbabies she might never hold.

My friend was a Jesus-follower. My friend is a Jesus-follower. She worshiped with a passion, a deep devotion that is uncommon- extraordinary. My friend never hesitated to use her story to point others to Jesus. She used her life, her circumstance to give God Glory.

I uncovered this e-mail treasure from her the other day. She sent it to me the summer of my breast cancer surgery.  I was stuck.  Stuck in a pit of sadness. She knew I was stuck and sent me a lifeline:

“Here’s a song for us to learn:

Hallelujah, Anyhow…

Never, Never let your problems get you down.

When life’s problems come your way,

Hold your head up high and say,

Hallelujah, Anyhow!”

My friend died. My friend passed. My friend lives. The world may not stop spinning.  We will still run our errands, balance our checkbooks, and hit the snooze button on our alarm clocks. But, deep in my spirit I know that an incredibly beautiful, devastating event took place.  My world shifted and my friend exited this temporal moment and entered the bliss of Eternity with Her Creator, Her Savior.

Yes, “Hallelujah, Anyhow…”

 

 

 

 

A Winning Team

First the diagnosis, then the treatment plan, then the execution of said plan… But what happens when the treatment plan is finished and you enter the gray zone of maintenance.  What then?  Just like a fledgling athletic team needs a support structure, a core of passionate individuals who possess unique gifts and wisdom- you as a breast cancer thriver- need a team of people you can draw both strength and expertise from. Your team consists of several layers which when the layers are peeled back, you find that these layers are not linear- they connect to one another in vibrant, beautiful circles. The first layer is your spouse or significant person.  For me, that person was and is my best friend- my husband Bob.  This person will listen to you describe the minute details of your diet, the side effects of your medication, and your mental state without ever rolling his eyes or sighing in your presence.  Another vital person in this layer is a friend- someone you can tell your darkest thoughts to and they listen and never, ever judge.  They do not feel the need to speak- they listen, listen, and listen some more.  The next addition is a kindred spirit- someone who has walked this path before you.  They don’t sugarcoat any information and are neither startled nor embarrassed by anything you ask them. Your next concentric circle is your medical team.  The staff at your oncologist’s office- the receptionists, the nurse practitioner, and the doctor or “Queen Bee” herself, in my case.  These souls will take your phone calls, order blood work and tests, and make appointments so that you can hear the Queen Bee say, “That is a lymph node- not a tumor,” “Your blood work looks good,” “We can do an ultrasound to keep an eye on that,” and the ever welcome, “You are doing it!” Under this layer is your wellness team.  Your Pilates instructor, the boy at the gym who scans your ID card when you arrive to work out, the massage therapist, and anyone who will exercise with you and push you further than you imagined you could go. Connecting all the layers and circles is your Spirituality- your belief in a higher power, Karma, the Creator of the Universe- or whatever easy chair you choose to sink the weight of your life into.  For me, it is my faith in Jesus Christ and the knowledge that this- all of this- is temporary.  When I step out of this point in time into Eternity, I will no longer care if I ate 100% organic, exercised at least 5 days a week, or buoyed my spirit with only positive, light-filled thoughts.  In Eternity, my scars will be gone, my implants a non-issue, and my body completely restored.  Breast cancer will have evolved into the role of teacher- an instructor who offered life lessons that pushed me to question more, grow stronger, and love more deeply than I ever thought possible. But for now- in this point in Time- I can feel the spring breeze on my face, the warm sun on my skin, and the undeniable peace in my soul.  The grand sense of peace that I am feeling more confident, less fragmented, and surprisingly comfortable in my own skin again.  And that is a very, very good thing…

Remind Me Who I Am

Labels…. they’re everywhere-  in the grocery store aisle, on the tag inside our favorite shirt, wrapped around that medicine bottle on our nightstand, and deep within our spirit.

So many labels that tell me who I am…  Wife, Mother, Daughter, Sister, Dog-Mama, Teacher, Friend.  Now I have a new label: Breast Cancer Survivor.  To be painfully honest, sometimes I want to rip that label off and hide it in a drawer somewhere.  My mind says that if I take the label off, perhaps this never happened.  But I have only to look in the mirror to know the label will not stay hidden in my drawer.  My scars tell me quite clearly where I’ve been.  But, they also tell me where I’m going.  I am going on.

I had my six-month check up with Dr. Brenda this week.  I received a good report, picked up my vitamin supplements, scheduled my next appointment, and got a refill on my Tamoxifen.  Bob and I celebrated our good news and I felt joyful.

A few days later I clicked on a newsletter filled with breast cancer research and I read and I read and I read.  I read about tamoxifen resistance, clinical studies, and gray statistics.  I clicked on article after article until I had spiraled down into the abyss of cancer knowledge overload.  I let myself wallow in the mud and mire there.  I felt stuck.  This is what my friend Lynn and I had worked so hard to deliver me from- the pit of negative thinking.

The voice inside my head berated me, chided me, scolded me for reading article after article and allowing my joy to be sucked down the internet research hole.

I was so disappointed in myself that I put on yet another label- negative thinker.  I went to my Pilates lesson with my spirit feeling choked- as if it would take great effort to exhale.  I was lying on the machine when Christina asked how I was feeling.  My eyes were closed and I could feel a little liquid behind my closed eyelids.  I did not want that water to escape.  I did not want to cry since I wasn’t quite sure what I would be crying about. I answered that I was feeling stressed.  Christina has a great voice and an even greater laugh.  She stood next to me and said,

“Breathe in and breathe out.  It’s going to be okay.”

It’s going to be okay.  Simple words that struck such a profound chord in my soul.  It is going to be okay.  I realized that I could rip the label – negative thinker- off.  It’s okay that I slid down into the mud momentarily- I wasn’t going to stay there.

I wasn’t going to stay there because I wear another label.  That label is “Beloved.”  I am a beloved child of God.  He is not angry or distant with me because I strayed from feeling joyful.  Instead, He scoops me up and just holds me in His Arms.  He laughs with me and cries with me.  He touches my scars lovingly and reminds me who I am- His beloved daughter.

I look at the word “beloved” a little closer and break it apart: be loved.  We all need to take these words and let them soak into our hearts, our souls, our spirits. Just be loved.  So the next time I feel my feet slip and start to slide down that muddy embankment, I will remember who I am…  I am beloved.

Are We There Yet?!

In my younger years I thought every journey must have a destination. If you study hard, you earn good grades. If you put your best foot forward, you attract incredible friends. If you think about the traits you desire in a spouse, you will find the ideal life partner. If you read all the great parenting blogs, you will raise happy, productive children. If you go to all of your doctor appointments, you will remain healthy.  As I grow older, I realize that sometimes… you can study really hard and still not do as well as you hoped.  You can be warm and loving and sometimes still develop a less than stellar friendship. You can have a laundry list of positive spousal traits and still not have a perfect marriage. You may read every parenting blog under the sun and still have a child who is unhappy or not realizing the potential God breathed into them.  And yes, you can go to all of your doctors appointments and be vigilant about preventing disease and still become ill.

The secret of contentment in the midst of the journey actually does not lie within the destination. The secret of contentment, the pure unadulterated joy lies in the sometimes hard-fought acceptance of the mundane, the mediocre, the everyday normal.  When you can accept your new normal- whatever that looks like- you find yourself able to move forward.  Your spirit ceases to look back wistfully at the shadows of your old life.  Instead, your soul pushes you forward to see a fresh new canvas- with some subtractions and some additions to your life.

After you accept the colors and hues of your new life, you must press on and adapt. Just as the chameleon’s color changes to suit her environment, you must change your perspective- the way you see those new colors and what you choose to do with them.

Accept.  Adapt.  And then what?  I would say Depend.  Depend on the strength of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, to carry you through when you’re not sure you can accept or you’re uncertain of how to adapt.  And then my friend you will come to the ultimate realization- the epiphany that the JOY is never, ever in the destination.  It is always found in the journey.

 

How Much Is That Doggie In the Window?

Bob and I have 3 grown children who have soared from our nest and two canine children who keep our nest cozy and crazy. We have 2 poodles (rather… they have us) named Gracie and Cody.

Gracie is a six-year-old toy poodle.  She is the color of my one remaining dietary vice: chocolate. Cody (aka “Code Man”) is a five-year-old miniature poodle who goes well with chocolate- he is white or “vanilla” as we say at our house.

These two canine kids keep our home interesting to say the least.  But, Gracie and Cody are a source of unconditional love and unfathomable comfort as well.

I came home from the hospital following my bilateral mastectomy and immediate reconstruction after just 24 hours.  Not because I am “superwoman;” it was a decision my surgeon lobbied for-  an excellent way to avoid infection and potential loss of my implants.

With drains in tow, we drove home on July 4th- my Independence Day from breast cancer. My mind was foggy with anesthesia and pain meds as we pulled into the driveway.  Bob helped me out of the car and we opened our front door.

My parents were there from Georgia to help take care of me and our household so Bob could head back to work after the long weekend. As the doorknob turned, I heard the familiar barking and my mind woke up.

My parents carefully held Gracie and Code Man so there would be no greetings via jumping.   My canine kids looked at me quizzically as if to say, “What’s wrong, Mom?”

Our nights soon fell into a predictable routine.  I would settle into the recliner in our bedroom and Gracie would sleep on our bed with Bob.  In the morning after Bob left for work, Gracie would scoot toward the foot of the bed.  She would watch me closely.  She did not offer to get down from the bed or ask to go out.  She simply waited.  She waited while I hobbled out of the recliner.  She waited while I went to the bathroom.  Only as I prepared to gingerly walk downstairs did Gracie move.  Then she would tentatively leave our bed and follow me slowly down the stairs.  Gracie understood.  She understood that I was in pain.  She understood that I was moving slowly. She understood that my spirit felt broken. Tenderly she placed her soft head in my lap and lovingly licked my hands.  Gracie was my comforter.

We adopted Cody from my parents and he has always slept in his crate in the family room.  He feels safe there and never argues about relocating to his “den” at bedtime.  After my surgery Cody needed to master a new skill.  He had always gone outside on a leash but after my surgery, I couldn’t handle his pulling on the leash.  Not at the beginning anyway.  So, we introduced a new request: “All done.”  Cody loved the freedom of going out on his own and learned “All done” fairly quickly. He would sometimes run as fast as he could in circles until he inevitably fell over.  Cody was my clown.

Eighteen months have passed since my surgery.  The recliner now sits in the family room. Cody still goes out on his own, although he often ignores “All Done” and stays outside as long as he likes.  He is still my clown- often running in circles and then flopping down as if to say, “Can you believe I just did that?!”  Gracie is still my comforter.  She snuggles up beside me on the couch and paws at my hand until I put my arm around her.  She leans in close and looks up at me with her luminous chocolate eyes as if to say, “Hey Mom- we made it.”

How much are those doggies in the window?  Gracie and Code Man are not for sale.  You can’t buy my heartbeat.

 

 

 

 

Calendars…

Calendars…  There is something magically delightful about new calendars, day planners, and datebooks.  Each empty page awaits new plans, ideas, challenges, and opportunities.  Looking back over the last year, my day planner tells a tale of milestones…

My last appointment with the plastic surgeon after my revision surgery.  I really grew to love that woman.  She would open the door to my exam room looking beautiful, hopeful, and interested.  Interested in not only how I was healing physically but emotionally too. As I thanked her at our last appointment, she smiled and said what an honor it had been getting to know me and my husband. Before she left the room, she turned to me and said, “Someday we’ll party together in Heaven and you will be a size Double D.”  She always made me smile, and I seemed to feel stronger when I left her office.

A year of blood tests with amazingly boring, normal results.  A year of visits with my surgeon, Dr. Brenda, and her staff. They became my friends- although we could have become confidantes in a much less painful way.

The year anniversary of my diagnosis and my surgery.  That date felt empowering and unbelievably peaceful.  The date of my chest x-ray- no more mammograms for me!  Hearing Suzanne, Dr. Brenda’s nurse practitioner, pronounce the x-ray to be “clean” is a date to circle.

A year of Pilates classes and therapeutic massages that soothed my muscles and my mind.  A year of talks with Lynn as I sorted through everything that happened. A year of swallowing 20 mg of Tamoxifen every day with lunch. The first pill taken with trepidation as I researched all that might go wrong because of this small, round medication.  A year later, it is taken almost without a second thought.

And now the last day of 2014…  I am preparing to put my 2014 datebook away.  My 2015 planner is smaller, more colorful, and deliciously empty of appointments.  This year is the beginning of my second year of being cancer-free, anxiety-free, regret-free.

May it be a year of loving extravagantly, forgiving lavishly, and living joyfully…

Happy New Year!!!